Simple Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem

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What is Self-Esteem?   

It is a term used to indicate a person’s assessment of his or her own value.  It incorporates emotions and beliefs about oneself. Beliefs such as: ‘I am capable’, “I am successful’, ‘I am a good person’, and emotions like pride, misery, despair or happiness.

Having positive self-esteem lays a strong foundation to being able to achieve things in your life and overcome obstacles that come across your path. Whereas having low self-esteem can see you constantly worrying, feeling anxious and unhappy, not taking care of yourself and expressing negative self-talk, all of which is destructive.

Judi Clements, Chief Executive of the Mental Health Foundation says: “Maintaining a good level of self-esteem, neither too high nor too low, is important for people’s overall wellbeing. It aids people in leading a flourishing life, as it is connected to high levels of resilience, vitality, optimism and self-determination, as well as positive relationships.”

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem?    

Those less confident can improve their self-esteem. You need to believe in yourself and in an alternative way of thinking. i.e Banish the negative thinking – the glass half empty and think in a more positive light.  Below are some tips to get you on the right path.

  1. Learn to focus on what you HAVE achieved, whether small or large. Making it into a school sports team, passing exams, getting your first job, car or own home. Acknowledge all your achievements.
  2. Accept yourself for who you are, love yourself for who you are, faults and all. None of us are perfect.
  3. Learn to accept what you cannot change about yourself and then let it go.
  4. Focus on the positive things about yourself. Write a list of all your good points like: being a good listener, caring for others, always willing to lend a hand, down to being a good cook or gardener.  When you start negative self-thoughts, bring out your list and focus on the positive!
  5. Avoid comparing yourself to others. There will always be the ‘Jones’ next door with a flasher house, car or boat.  Don’t dwell on what you don’t have, learn to appreciate what you DO have and show gratitude for it.
  6. Learn to forgive yourself (as you would others) if you were unable to complete a certain task.  Adjust your goals so you have a better chance of achieving it in the future.
  7. Associate with positive and encouraging people.  People who are positive can help you feel that way too and also provide a supportive environment which is up lifting.
  8. Try not to take criticism personally.  It can be hard I know! But depending on who it is coming from (someone you respect) try to take it as ‘feedback’ and learn from it.
  9. Learn to accept a compliment. Don’t brush it off and make light of it. Acknowledge it positively and verbally accept it.
  10. Make time to exercise.  Endorphins are released during cardio activity causing us to feel happier and healthier, boosting your mood and your self-esteem.
  11. Take time out for yourself and do something you love. Doing something you enjoy will help improve your self-confidence.
  12. Laugh. Have a sense of humour and learn to laugh at yourself. It will help distract you from negative emotions and boost your mood bringing greater happiness.





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